Comments on: The 4 NVC steps made simple

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Sun, 21 Jul 2019 10:18:11 +0000

In reply to Kettie Schwartz. I like your idea Kettie!

By: Kettie Schwartz

Kettie Schwartz — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 13:06:39 +0000

Thank you, Marianne, for another valuable video! A good reminder of the process.
What I’d like to suggest is if you can make another video about the prefaces
to the four parts.
What I mean is for, for example, when you make the observation you say “I noticed…”,or before you say your needs ,you say “I guess I have a need for…”
and before you make a request you say “So, I was wondering if…”.
I find that sometimes it makes the difference how it would be accepted by the other person. It’s like soften the conversation rather than making it direct and technically.
I’d love to hear your opinion.

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 13:05:56 +0000

In reply to Kettie Schwartz. Thank you Kettie, I like that idea!

By: Kettie Schwartz

Kettie Schwartz — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 12:53:40 +0000

Thank you, Marianne, for another valuable video! A good reminder of the process.
What I’d like to suggest is, if you can make another video about the preface to the four parts. What I mean is for example ,when you make the observation you say “I noticed…”
or before you say your needs, you say ” I guess I have a need for…” and before you make the request ,”So, I was wondering about….”.
I find that this sometimes make the difference how it would be accepted by the other person. It’s like soften the conversation rather than making it too direct and technically.
I’d love to hear your opinion

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 07:07:28 +0000

In reply to Natasha. I don't have such a sheet but I'm working on a book that might contain that!

By: Natasha

Natasha — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 06:41:44 +0000

Thank you for this clear and simple approach!
Do you have a sheet to download which has actual scripts and examples of ways of saying observations, needs and requests that connect rather than cause unease or negative reactions? In this video you said that all so warmly in a way that inspires connection, you used the right words and right tone without blame. Any scripts for that please?
Thank you for your efforts, I love your videos and I practice NVC with my kids a lot. But I still need the fine tuning, therefore my request to you.

By: Kris

Kris — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 06:38:25 +0000

Thank you again, Marianne. I found parts of this clip a little fast. For example, you skipped quite fast over the Request option, How do you feel when you hear this? I find this a really useful request in many situations, it slows the process down, allows the other some space to check in with themselves