Comments on: Nonviolent Communication – Scared to hurt someone with your message? (5 tips)

By: Mirek

Mirek — Sun, 06 Oct 2019 22:09:42 +0000

Hi Marianne,
today, I used your tip no. 4, but in „the opposite direction “. I asked my wife a question, that can be answered simply by yes or no. I got a lot of words back and after her speech I asked „what is your answer to my question, yes or no? “. „I have already told you, yes “.
Normally I would feel guilty or inadequate for not catching the answer. This time I remembered, that it is better to deliver a message in digestible pieces, which was not the case. As a result, I thought to myself “I am not obliged to catch everything that was said in a quick and unorganized way.”
I stayed calm and my need for (self)-respect was satisfied. Thank you for your tips.

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Thu, 19 Sep 2019 11:31:10 +0000

In reply to Kris Kolff. thanks for telling me!

By: Kris Kolff

Kris Kolff — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 21:46:53 +0000

Thank you again for the reminders!

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 10:58:12 +0000

In reply to Jill. Yay!

By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 10:27:09 +0000

A big thank you Marianne. This was very useful for me because I’m reluctant to have these kind of conversations with people. I also feel terrible if I upset someone else by saying something to them that causes an upset. I shall be watching this video several times over and then find a friend that can be a guinea pig for me.