Comments on: NVC Book Review: Marshall Rosenberg – NVC, a language of life

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 13:37:18 +0000

In reply to Birgit Aschemann. Thanks Birgit, happy to hear you liked the balance! I think the book you recommend is different, Ill check it out!

By: Birgit Aschemann

Birgit Aschemann — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 13:33:37 +0000

Thank you very much Marianne,
I loved to hear you speaking about Rosenberg’s book in such a well-balanced way with pros as well as cons (up to now I heard people speaking about that book as if it was kind of a bible).
Regarding the focus on empathy you noticed in several NVC-books I want to recommend the book “Don’t Be Nice, Be Real: Balancing Passion for Self with Compassion for Others” by Kelly Bryson … (is it the same as Lutgart Hanssens recommended above?) – I like it a lot!…
Love, Birgit
(PS English is not my mother tongue, i don’t feel confident about my vocabulary and want you to know that)

By: Marianne van Dijk

Marianne van Dijk — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 10:17:54 +0000

In reply to Lutgart Hanssens. Thanks, en yes I was planning on discussing that book as well!

By: Lutgart Hanssens

Lutgart Hanssens — Thu, 16 Aug 2018 06:42:18 +0000

Thank you so much Marianne for your NVC work and inspiration. You really do a great job.
The book ‘Stop met aardig zijn’ Thomas d’Ansembourg is een absolute aanrader en meer gericht naar het grote publiek.
Marshall’s boek ‘Geweldloze Communicatie’ heb ik verschillende malen herlezen en steeds weer als verrijkend ervaren.
Love

By: Ioanna G.

Ioanna G. — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 07:23:30 +0000

Hi Marianne, I follow your Blog and I specifically found your sheet on children’s needs helpful with my 4-year (now 5-year)-old.
Now about this book, I think that this is the book anyone should start with. There are plenty ones to go on, but this is the one to start.
I didn’t mind about the language. If one has a good understanding of the English language (my native language is Greek) it’s no big deal. It’s actually an easy book to read, if you ask me. So I would disagree with you on that, because written language isn’t and shouldn’t be like the spoken language. I wouldn’t take a book seriously, if it were written in the spoken language.
You mentioned the lack of applicability, as a drawback. I would like to remind readers that NVC is a language. Would anyone consider having learned any foreign language just by reading a book about it? No. It’s also why an NVC-weekend-course isn’t enough to make you fluent in NVC. Just like no one expects to speak, say, Portuguese after just a couple of days of studying it. It takes years of practice. People learn NVC at the pace they would learn a new foreign language. And the more they speak it and deal with it, the better they get. So this is just the book to teach the basics of this language.
Lastly, I would love to hear more about what you mean with “how to be more honest”, you mentioned missing it in this book and in many NVC resources and I am not sure I understood what you exactly mean.
Thank you for the opportunity to discuss about this book. This is practice for me!