‘How we resolved the conflict about our carpet’
You might say: ‘but Marianne, I like all that mindful conflict resolution and stuff, but what if it’s just about something silly like what carpet are we going to put in the living room? Can’t I just push a bit for what I want and it will be just fine?’
And I would say: ‘NO YOU CANT!’ Kidding. Of course you can. But. There is an after effect. When you push for what you want, you start with the assumption that it’s needed for you to push for what you want, that it is not EASY for you to receive what you want in life. That others don’t want that for you, or maybe you yourself don’t think you are deserving. It is a deeeeep thing. And so resolving a disagreement properly is about assuming that life will give you what you need, that YOU can bring yourself what you need. It’s about loving yourself. Yes, even talking about the decision for a carpet is about loving yourself. Now in order to make this a bit more practical, me and my boyfriend are going to demonstrate a self-loving, friction free conflict resolution about a disagreement we had. Bonus: you will find out what carpet goes in our living room!
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